When Adrian left work in 2015 to start his own businesses as a Life Coach, he knew he wanted to volunteer to give back to the community before work commitments took over.
Adrian had volunteered with young people before and for some years had offered respite foster care: so when he was looking for a voluntary role, he knew he wanted to find something that would use his experience with young people as well as his skills as a life coach. Adrian searched on the Do-It database, and found the Family Support role at Northorpe Hall.
As a Family Support volunteer, Adrian was matched to the family of an 8 year old boy with challenging behaviour. He spent two hours a week with the boy, giving him space to share his feelings without being judged and giving him tips on managing his anger (as well as some tips on football skills!) Mum also benefitted as Adrian offered her some 1-2-1 life coaching sessions, helping her not only to understand why she reacted to her son the way she did, but also to see things from his point of view. Coaching also gave her hope, by helping her to think about her own aspirations and ambitions.
At first, Adrian wasn’t sure how much impact he was having on the boy he was matched with, it took so long for the boy to trust him and open up. But, slowly and surely the relationship grew, and now the match has come to an end, both mum, boy and Adrian himself were able to share with each other the ten things they had learned from their time together. The boy can manage his anger better and work through his feelings, the mum now knows she is resilient and can understand why her son behaved as he did. Through having Adrian volunteer, everyone learned to never give up.
Read about becoming a Family Supoort volunteer here: http://www.iminkirklees.org.uk/makeadifference/familysupport/